The Short Answer

To enforce a custody or visitation order in New York, you file a violation petition in the Family Court that issued the order, describing how the other parent broke it. If the court finds a willful violation, it can hold the parent in contempt and impose remedies — make-up parenting time, a stricter schedule, fines, or in serious cases jail — and a repeated or willful violation can also be grounds to modify custody.

Please note: This is general information about New York law, not legal advice. Every custody situation is different. To discuss your specific circumstances, speak with a licensed New York attorney.

A custody order is a court order, and New York gives you a way to enforce it when the other parent ignores it — whether they are withholding the child during your scheduled time, refusing exchanges, or otherwise not following the terms. The tool is a violation (enforcement) petition filed in the Family Court that issued the order.

The petition should describe the specific violations: the dates, what was supposed to happen under the order, and what the other parent did instead. Keep records — a log of missed exchanges, messages, and witnesses all help show the court a pattern rather than a one-time misunderstanding.

If the court finds the violation was willful, it has real remedies. It can order make-up parenting time, modify the schedule to prevent further problems, impose fines, and in serious or repeated cases hold the violating parent in contempt, which can carry jail time. A persistent, willful pattern of violating the order can also support a petition to modify custody itself.

Because enforcement turns on proving a willful violation, parents often consult a New York custody attorney to document the pattern and present it effectively.

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Frequently Asked Questions

What happens if the other parent violates a custody order in New York?

You can file a violation petition. If the court finds a willful violation, it can order make-up time, change the schedule, impose fines, hold the parent in contempt, and in serious cases the violation can support modifying custody.

Can withholding visitation change custody in New York?

A repeated, willful pattern of denying the other parent court-ordered time can be grounds to seek a modification of custody, because it bears on the best interests of the child.

Where do I file to enforce a custody order?

Generally in the Family Court that issued the original order, by filing a violation petition.